Teaching our children to appreciate their uniqueness may be one of the most important lessons in life. So many good hearted children alter their behavior to “fit in” or to be accepted. It took me 30 years to realize that I am the way I am for a reason. I am a soft hearted, easy going, positivity loving modern hippy, who believes in the goodness in others despite some instances where it may not appear so. And that is exactly who I would want to be when I grow up. When I was younger I tried to fit in, tried to look cool, tried to be tougher. Wish I knew then what I know now but better now than later. Search for the true you, look deep in your soul to discover the beautiful natural you and don’t let others influence you and divert you away from your heart. And remember one thing…love is the answer to every question.
Every single person on this planet had a different upbringing which makes them unique and invaluable. Their different walk of life has equipped them with an arsenal of their own experiences that the rest of us can benefit from. Whether we learn from their mistakes or successes we become that much more knowledgeable. Learning from each other is a skill that can bring us enlightenment, understanding and acceptance of others. College graduates and doctors are not the only ones who can offer wisdom, not that their hard work should be overlooked. You may have a lot to learn from an economist about how the economy works but you may learn a whole lot about compassion from the night shift cleaning lady. There is just no limit on what we can learn when we open our eyes and mind to the knowledge we encounter everyday. Don’t let your ego stop you from learning from a fellow pier or someone younger than you. My son teaches me new things everyday, not with his years of experience but through his innocence, his hopefulness and an abundant amount of love and compassion.
Moral of the story: learning is not just done in school, it is everywhere around us and continues throughout our life span. Be open to it and embrace it.
Because we are not created equal. Some are stronger than others. Some are richer than others. Some can bear children while others cannot. Some have connections that allow them to get away with murder, while others spend years behind bars for victimless crimes. Some are fortunate to be born to a life full of abundance and opportunities while others struggle to see another day. While the list of our inequalities can go on and on, it is important to note that just because we are not equal; it does not mean we cannot get along. Just because we are different; it does not mean we cannot be one. Just because we are separated by circumstances, it does not mean we cannot connect.
Let us consider the human body as an example. The human body is functional due to a complex collaboration of various organs. Each organ is different in size, texture, shape and color, each one of them functions differently in order to serve its own purpose. Are they equal? No. Some play a huge role in the body’s survival while others play a smaller supportive role, yet non-the less, the supporting organs are a vital part of a functioning body. While the organs are different in their own right; the body cannot survive without each and every one.
Much like the human body, each one of us has its own purpose in the world and like the organs we can help support one another. The strong can lift the weak, the rich can help the poor, and the wise can teach the inquisitive. However, for this to effectively work it must come from the heart. We cannot enforce this behavior with laws; we cannot guarantee it by force. This will only lead to resentment and animosity. Good actions are always voluntary, they are never coerced and since every child is born with a good heart, every one of them has the potential to never learn hate.
So instead of striving to be equal, let’s strive to respect one another. Let’s build a foundation of understanding of our own unique strengths and learn to love and respect one another for what we are as well as for what we are not. I may not believe in equality but I wholeheartedly believe in the power of unity and humanity.
Love, Peace and Unity
Every day so many prayers and wishes ask for peace on earth. Most people want peace but can’t see a way it could really happen with so much hardship in the world. I believe peace begins at home. Imagine if every household practiced peace. No hitting, no yelling, no judgement, no authority, no need to control, no punishment, no racism, no hate. Only love, support and kindness. Now imagine all these children growing up to treat strangers with the same kindness they saw at home. Understanding and compassion would blossom. Love and positivity would thrive. Generations after generations of raising compassionate individuals would transform this planet. Each parent has this opportunity. Each parent holds the key to world peace. Join the love revolution.
Let’s face it ladies, much too often it seems we live in a cold cruel world full of criticism and negative news. Every morning we wake up in a digital age where it is easy to lose ourselves in the dust of photo shopped perception of perfection. With continuous overexposure of what the perfect woman should look like, we subliminally accept that we will never be as perfect as she is or we continuously chase this perceived illusion of perfection. Truth is we can never catch up to something that’s not real. We cannot and should not lose the beautiful uniqueness that makes us who we are. However hard we may try to dodge this media hypnosis, it finds ways to sneak into our sub consciousness and undoubtedly affects our self-esteem. Time and time again we find ourselves wishing for thinner things, longer locks or smoother skin. No matter how fast we try to run from it, it seems to always catch up.
The trick to beating the beast of perfection is not in avoidance but in inner self-appreciation and self-love. One way to achieve this is by developing and utilizing a personal mantra. A mantra is a word or phrase that is repeated to oneself to narrow a particular focus or reassert certain beliefs. I urge you to give this exercise a try. The principle is simple, practice is essential. Here is how:
“I am a smart, creative, caring, loving, beautiful being who wants to make a change in the world. I see love all around me. I respect all beings equally. I value my fellow humans in every shape and form. I suspend all judgment of others. My purpose is to share love, compassion and understanding. I want to strip myself of all prior dispositions. I follow my heart, do what feels right and give the gift of kindness. I don’t need to be liked, approved or validated to feel whole. I am who I am and I won’t change to fit in or conform. “
With time and practice you will see how powerful this exercise is. I strive to recite it daily, preferably early in the morning before I get caught up in the hectic day ahead but I also reach out for my mantra when I’m feeling down, upset or going through a difficult phase in my life. The mantra helps ground me, refucuses me on what really matters and reminds me of how much I have to offer. I hope this exercise will help you find a deep and profound admiration for yourself, a deeper meaning for your purpose in life and help you discover all the wonder that is you. Whatever you do, do not underestimate the power of the Mantra.
Love, peace and unity