Lately, when a tragedy takes place the internet starts to overflow with negative conversations, bashful discussions and hateful remarks. A dark disastrous cloud rolls over our eyes and we feel the need to react and retaliate. It’s a hard pill to swallow knowing that the actions of one person can cause so much physical damage and that those same actions create ripple effects of hate and division within our communities. While some sense of unity could be found in empathy toward victims and their families, there are far more instances of finger pointing and accusations. Many focus on finding someone to blame while politicians and the media take advantage by playing on our emotions and fears. Many people blame organizations, some blame laws, others accuse politicians and too many focus on race. Meanwhile the only true perpetrator is the offender who actualy committed the crime. Why do we allow for the focus to shift elsewhere? Why does our focus go anywhere else than on the one who committed the crime? That heartless person, that sick, depressed and damaged being. One way we could be more productive during these difficult times is if we channeled our anger into positive energy. If we counteracted hate with love. Blame with compassion. Division with unity. What if we used these incidents to remind ourselves that there is a dire need for more love and a dire need for more acts of kindness. What if we realized that a person capable of such horrific acts must have been lacking love, support and affection in their life? That no one is born a monster? What if we considered that the most effective way to prevent future acts of hate is by fostering and sharing love, not only within our own families but with colleagues and strangers alike.
So while most people play the blame game and ask the government for more useless laws, I ask you to join me in a different kind of campaign. Here is something we haven’t tried. Lets take our inner fire of anger and use it to ignite our desire to change the world, to change the future of our children, to fill this planet with love and watch it come back to us ten fold. Because if we all radiated love, the world would be a better place.
Love, peace and unity
Love Paper Pen
The power of these 4 words is so often underestimated. For many it’s a common greeting phrase that gets handed out like a flyer without the expectation of a substantial response. But when asked genuinely and honestly it could mean the world to someone. I realized this recently when I rendezvoused with a longtime friend. As we sat in an outdoor cafe she walked me through her tremendously difficult journey over the past year. From a heartbreaking separation from her husband to family illness and even to the dangerous thoughts of suicide. While I listened and watched her tear up I thought…my goodness where have I been? When was the last time I called her to say “Hi, how are you?” When did I get so wrapped up in my own world that I didn’t notice a friend in need and how many others are silently dealing with challenges in their lives?
You see just because we stay in touch via social media, it doesn’t mean we know what’s really going on. Most people share their best moments and happiest memories while keeping their vulnerable emotions securely protected, understandably so. Our lunch was so much more than a catch up date. It taught me a valuable lesson. Take the time to ask “Hi, how are you?” and make yourself available for a real substantial response. I am happy to say that my friend is doing well, after a long and treacherous year she finally found balance and is working on restoring peace in her life. Fortunately she had a strong support system at home that helped her through. And so I’m passing on my lesson to you – take a moment to think about your friends or even distant family members, how are they doing? When was the last time you had a heart to heart? Could they be covering up a painful time in their life? Maybe its time for a face to face catch up or at least a nice long phone call, because lets face it…texts just don’t cut it. And what if your call could make all the difference?
Love, peace and unity
Meditation is power. When exercised properly and regularly it can bring calm, peace and clarity to your life. Meditation can feel like a rapid build up and a slow release of your inner most emotional congestion. It is an inner shower. A cleansing ritual that rids the soul of dirt and clutter that weighs heavy on your soul. Meditation takes you places, it lets you travel back in time to corners of your memory you thought you hid forever or on the contrary it can transport you to the future where you can visualize yourself in your highest state of peace, calm and tranquility. Meditation is the vehicle, you get to drive. Lots of research has been done on meditation, some psychologists sought answers to questions like: Why is meditation good for you? Does it really work? How does it work? What are the benefits?
I cannot say with certainty that the answers found in studies or labs are entirely true or valid, but there is one thing I can guarantee. Meditation feels amazing. It works differently for each one of us but when done correctly I promise it will work. Here are a few Do’s and Don’ts if you’re starting out on your mediation journey.
When practicing meditation do:
1. Do have an open mind. You may not have an epiphany or get the next bright idea while meditating but rest assured knowing that taking the time to rest your mind and body is beneficial for your focus, patience and attention span.
2. Do start out with smaller increments of time to ease yourself into ongoing meditation practice. Once mastered, increase the time frame every few days. I suggest starting out with 5 minutes.
3. Do experiment with different types of meditation. Every style of meditation offers a unique comfort. You can try silent meditation, guided meditation, visualization, mindfulness breathing or mantra repetition. Oh you don’t have a mantra? Check out my how to guide for creating your own personal mantra here Power of the Mantra
4. Do experiment meditation with others. There is something surreal in sharing your meditation space with someone you care about. It could be your lover, a friend or even a room full of strangers who share your passion for meditation.
5. Do use modern technology to aid you in your meditation journey. There is an array of apps and websites that can offer you various meditation styles. From meditation timers to guided meditation, there is certainly the right one for you. I recently discovered a free apple app called Insight Timer, however, I am always interested in trying something new. So if you have a site or app you love, please do share!
Here are some common pitfalls of meditating:
1. Don’t wait for ideal surroundings. Meditating can be as quick as 5 minutes and as long as….you want it to be. Its better to have a quick meditation session than a long one that never actually happens.
2. Don’t be intimidated by thoughts and feelings. It is very natural to feel a surge of emotions come to the surface when meditating, simply acknowledge them and move on, you’ll be amazed how good it feels to be in control of all that busy talk that goes on in your head.
3. Don’t give up. If meditating doesn’t work out the first time, let it go and try again another time.
4. Don’t compare your meditation experience with others. Meditation experiences vary from person to person, they may even vary for you from time to time. It’s best to let go, have no expectations and go with the flow. After all, going with the flow is the essence of meditation.
5. Don’t worry about how much time you’re spending meditating. The end goal is not to meditate for hours, but to find the calm and peace within yourself. So while others may enjoy 60 minutes of meditation, you may be content with 15. Its about the journey, not the destination.
For me meditation is an out-of-body experience. It is a chance to slow down, quiet my mind and focus on all the good and abundance around me. Meditation goes beyond skin deep, it dives into the very core of my soul and allows me to strip away layers of stress, worry and anxiety. If you found yourself interested in meditation, you’re on the right path. I urge you to give it a solid heart-felt try. And just in case you need a bit more convincing, here is an excerpt from one of my favorite motivational books The Willpower Instinct,“Neuroscientists have discovered that when you ask the brain to meditate, it gets better not just at meditating, but at a wide range of self-control skills, including attention, focus, stress management, impulse control, and self-awareness. People who meditate regularly aren’t just better at these things, overtime their brains become finely tunes willpower machines.” – Kelly McGonical author of The Willpower Instinct.
Love, peace, unity and of course…namaste
Have you had the pleasure of reading a very special love letter that’s been surfing through the World Wide Web? The letter is allegedly written by Albert Einstein to his daughter Lieserl Einstein. It is a beautiful attempt at explaining the mystical and wondrous power that is love. Several curious minds have tried to verify the authenticity of its origination; however no one was able to confirm that Albert actually wrote it. What I find most interesting is not so much who wrote it, but the message that lies within. Whether it was written by the world’s most famous brilliant mind or a modern ghost blogger, the power of the message remains the same. Love is a force more powerful than any known to man. I urge you to read the letter and share it with the world if it resonates within.
…”When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.
I ask you to guard the letters as long as necessary, years, decades, until society is advanced enough to accept what I will explain below.
There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. It is a force that includes and governs all others, and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us.
This universal force is LOVE. When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe they forgot the most powerful unseen force.
Love is Light, that enlightens those who give and receive it.
Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others.
Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness. Love unfolds and reveals.
For love we live and die.
Love is God and God is Love.
This force explains everything and gives meaning to life. This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will.
To give visibility to love, I made a simple substitution in my most famous equation.
If instead of E = mc2, we accept that the energy to heal the world can be obtained through love multiplied by the speed of light squared, we arrive at the conclusion that love is the most powerful force there is, because it has no limits.
After the failure of humanity in the use and control of the other forces of the universe that have turned against us, it is urgent that we nourish ourselves with another kind of energy…
If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.
Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet.
However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.
When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Lieserl, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life.
I deeply regret not having been able to express what is in my heart, which has quietly beaten for you all my life. Maybe it’s too late to apologize, but as time is relative, I need to tell you that I love you and thanks to you I have reached the ultimate answer! “
There are over 7 billion people in this world; gosh that is a large number. It’s hard to believe that with so many people in the world it can still be difficult to find the right partner. Each and every one of us is unique down to our very DNA yet most of us share a commonality, we all want to love and be loved, we want to share our journey through life with someone who gets us, someone we can trust and count on when the going gets rough. The selection process for “the one” varies for each individual. Some effortlessly stumble into lifelong love, some take a few falls along the way while others spend most of their life searching for that special someone. Whether you’re deep in love or still searching, try to keep in mind that while having a life partner is an important aspect of fulfillment, choosing the right person to be by your side is even more imperative. To be clear, I am not saying that you need to go out and find a perfect human, not at all. As a matter of fact we are all imperfect. Our imperfections make us who we are; they make us unique, beautiful and full of wonder. Instead of perfection, seek character traits that help you become the best version of you. Below is a list of a few key traits that I find essential in a perfect mate.Your partner in shine should:
1. Love you for who you are, not who they want you to be – understanding our differences is keyto a successful relationship. By observing and learning your partner’s likes and dislikes you can make educated decisions on how to make them happy or what makes them tick. Because how can we make someone happy if their definition of happiness is different from our own?
2. Support your passions – Behind every great skill or talent there is a whole lot of passion. Passion is the fire that ignites our drive, our dedication and determination. Without passion our life can appear to be bleak and unexciting, sometimes even pointless, therefore, it is critical that we allow ourselves to explore and pursue our passions. Your partner needs to value and respect your personal passion, no matter how big or small.
3. Be honest – with the good and the bad. Honesty is an incredibly powerful tool. It can make us feel on top of the world, if it is to our liking. Conversely, it can break us down if we are not ready to face the facts. Truth is, honesty that feels uncomfortable to hear,is a sign of avoidance of some uncomfortable truth. It is our responsibility to deal with it and figure it out internally rather than get upset at the messenger. I would prefer uncomfortable truth over false compliments any day. Just a side note, do not confuse honesty with opinion.
4. Challenge your ideas – your partner should help you reevaluate your predispositions, no matter how uncomfortable that may seem. Many folks walk around with years of opinions and ideas they’ve picked up along the way. In addition to the predispositions, they tend to carry a heavy ego baggage. Ego combined with existing beliefs can be a dangerous combination, because the ego is always worried that we’re going to look foolish, therefore it prevents you from being open minded to new information that may conflict with your existing beliefs. If we put our ego aside and consider the discussion with an open and clear mind, we may learn some new information not only about the topic but about ourselves.
5. Let you breathe – every single one of us needs a little space from time to time. Whether you are in a relationship or juggling a busy family life, it is easy to forget to take care of ourselves. We end up focusing most of our energy on the wants and needs of others, forgetting to take the time to check in with ourselves. Without proper “me” time we can get lost in frustration and end up feeling used and unappreciated. In a healthy relationship, partners give each other time to pause, reflect and breathe.
6. Last but most certainly not least, if you want your partner to give you all the courtesies listed above, be sure you are ready to give them in return. A healthy relationship is a two way street.
Having a partner in life is a beautiful notion, but having the right partner for you is even more important. The right partner will enlighten you, strengthen you, empower you and help you become the best version of yourself yet. The perfect partner is not a perfect person but rather a perfect companion for your beautiful journey.